A coworker just shared this article via Yammer “12 Things Happy People Do Differently”
A few months ago I told my coworkers that while others place goals on tangible positions, items or benchmarks, I just want to find ways to be happy each day. I’m not sure that really resonated with many—it can seem as if I’m unguided but I’ve been very successful using this model (and trust me it’s not always easy but it’s ALWAYS beneficial.
I’m not going to post the entire article, but I highly recommend you read. I’ve added my personal thoughts to each step.
Express gratitude: I always try to let people know that I appreciate THEM. Not just the output, but the person actually behind the work or the action. Sometimes I just thank them for being them.
Cultivate optimism: I always say that stress won’t get anything done–much less done well. You are more likely to be innovative when you are positive—even under tight deadlines. You can be honest and still positive. It may be cliché but every problem IS an opportunity.
Avoid over-thinking and social comparison: Until I finished college, I was a huge over thinker—I am an only child after all. But I learned that what you see on the outside usually does not align with what is going on. To align this to pop culture, everyone is surprised that Heidi and Seal are divorcing because they seemed like a perfect match. But, you only see what people allow you to see. Rarely does anyone take pictures of themselves when they are sad, bored, broken or upset. We were all taught to smile in photographs.
Practice acts of kindness: I am working on this. I used to be the person that tried to make sure to close the elevator quickly as to enjoy the ride alone. But what’s the big deal of waiting 10 seconds to wait for someone to catch up? Call the customer service operator by the name they introduced you to. Just be plain ol’ nice! You never know who needs it
Nurture social relationships: I’m an only child an enjoy solitude, maybe because I work in such a social atmosphere. But I will say that creating good relationships at work increases. At work, we talk about so many things outside of the realm at work. This way I know a little more about people and its easier to work in teams, get help and give help because I know people’s strengths, they know mine and you are more likely to want to help someone you genuinely like.
Develop strategies for coping: When something ‘craptastic’ happens I just continue moving forward. Complaining has never efficiently fixed a problem—maybe a band aid. But the more open minded I am about a “problem” the better the outcome. Again, I don’t believe in stress—I believe in getting things done (because what other choice is there?!). And, if you can’t find a reason to smile then give someone else a reason to!
Learn to forgive: If you forgive, but haven’t forgotten they you truly haven’t forgave. Being upset usually expends your own energy and if you have to have a relationship with that other person it ruins that energy as well. Talk about it, put in place actionable ideas to move forward. Wasting time thinking about what someone did wrong will usually always defeat you more than it will ever do to the other person. Hate takes so much more emotion than love.
Increase flow experiences: Get focused! Multitasking DOES NOT exist. Multitasking is when you do things for short bursts of time and you have to keep realigning your focus. It is hard to be 100% or increasingly innovated in this mind frame.
Savor life’s joys: I live in the moment and hope for the best in the future. Again, my goal is to be happy because I can do that at any given moment—through a memory or an action. I’m not against people with different goals but when so narrowly focused on something, if it doesn’t happen (and sometimes even if it does) you fail to realize everything else going great around you—and trust me, there’s a lot of great things going on around you.
Commit to your goals: I don’t always agree with this. Commit to your goals but if you see a better opportunity, whether it is a spinoff of the original goal or something totally new, give it a chance! Remember the goal is sometimes bigger than what you think—You may want to be a doctor but if you dig deep you realize what you truly want is to help people. Don’t miss out on diamonds because you are busy mining for gold.
Practice spirituality: Believe in something. You are never alone.
Take care of your body: And, I’m an epic fail at this. Been leaning on my wonderful metabolism too long. But you do only get one body so don’t be too reckless!